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A life-saving message


MARSHALL (WKOW) -- Cyndy Cross lost her son to a drunk driver five years ago this month.

Now she's delivering a powerful anti-drunk driving message, and it's how she's delivering that message that is getting a lot of attention.  

Dave Dobbert was a musician. When he was killed, his mom wanted to keep his music alive.

Now she's making a difference, one note at a time.

"My son David was a bass player for a band called Phineas Gage," Cyndy Cross says.

He was just hitting his musical prime, when a drunk driver silenced David's voice forever.

Now his mom and stepdad have picked up where David and his band left off. They decided to learn his instrument and continue on with his music. Dave was all about music.

Cyndy Cross Remembers the first time she picked up David's Bass.

"Terrified, absolutely terrified," Cyndy says of the experience.  "I just kept thinking, 'there's absolutely no way I'm going to be able to learn this instrument.'"

But she did.

Their band is Crosswire. They play benefit concerts and raise money for a memorial scholarship for their son.

It's not their music they want you to hear, it's their message - Don't drink and drive.

"I don't want to get a phone call from a parent asking us to come and play a benefit for a son or daughter that they've lost," David's stepfather Bruce Cross says. 

Cyndy draws strength from her son.

"I feel like when I'm out there or when I'm speaking at schools or when I'm speaking at the victim impact meetings that Dave's right there. It's hard to talk about. But it keeps him alive," Cyndy says. 

So does their music.

"If we can save one person, from loss of life, I think that we've succeeded," Bruce Cross says.

Dave Dobbert drank but didn't drive. He had a friend drive or just stayed wherever he was at for the night. A message that never made it to the drunk driver that killed him on a sunny Sunday afternoon.

Now Bruce and Cyndy Cross are making sure they deliver their message -- with their son's help as they pick up where his music left off.

"I wanted to be as good as Dave, and I wanted him to be proud. I don't think I'm as good as him, but I think he's proud," Bruce says. "I like to think that David's right next to me at every show, too."

That show must go on -- and so must life for the couple from Marshall who lost more than a son -- they lost a part of themselves.

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